Wednesday, February 2, 2011

Making the Transition From a Long Distance Relationship to Living in the Same Town

Love is an amazing thing that you can't control in any way possible. You can fall in love with the most unsuspecting individuals in some of the most unsuspecting circumstances. In most cases, people allow themselves to be led by love because it's just that strong. At American Van Lines, we understand all too well, how love can cause people to end up in long distance relationships. If you've been carrying on a long distance relationship for a while, then you know too well about how love can make you do things you never thought you would have. If you and your partner are finally ready to close the gap of your long distance relationship, then there are a few things you'll want to consider in order to protect your relationship.

For starters, it's important not to jump into living in the same house with one another immediately after living hundreds of miles apart from each other. This is especially true if all you've had is a long distance relationship with this person and you've never lived together before. Going from one extreme (long distance relationship) to another (living in close quarters) may be too much to handle so soon. Taking baby steps is the best thing you can do for the relationship.

It's normal to want to live together after having missed each other so many times and for so long, but resist the urge. Just because you and your mate was able to get along for days at a time when you were in each other's presence during visits, but actually living with someone day in and day out is a different monster all together. Moving in with each other after living so far apart will greatly test the relationship, but it's not a risk that you have to take if you want to live closer to each other.

A great alternative to moving in with each other is to get your own places in the same town. This will help you both enjoy the freedom that you're already used to while basking in the ability to see each other more frequently. Maintaining this sense of independence will strengthen your love. There is something about being aware of the possibility that your mate may leave you and grow apart from you that brings people closer together. It sounds crazy, and you and your mate may never break up, but that small room for error will make the two of you work even harder to stay closer.

A number of discoveries may transpire after you or mate move closer. You may discover that they get on your nerves and that the relationship just won't work. If this is what you discover, then you'll be happy you did so while you both still had your own places. If you discover you were right about this person all along and you can't live without them, you and your mate can take the natural progression into marriage or living together. Doing it in this manner, by living apart first will help the both of you be absolutely certain about your decisions. You won't question whether or not you're moving too fast or if your emotions are circumstantial, because you would have taken your time and given the relationship a chance to blossom.

Unlike the assurance of moving company insurance, there are no guarantees in love and taking your time, letting your love blossom is the best way to ensure the success of your relationship. If you're ready to close the gap in your long distance relationship, take baby step and you won't be sorry.